One of the main goals for my website is to encourage others, especially mommas, to find ways to add stillness and simplicity into their busy lives. Business, stress, anxiety, overworking, they all run together and if we’re not mindful, they can take over our lives. I’m not calling for a drastic change here, but if you’re on the verge of a breakdown, I’ve got 5 simple tips for you to help you manage your busy life.
Don’t worry, these tips aren’t going to add stress to your schedule. In fact, I bet within a few days, you will be looking forward to your mini moments of stillness. To be honest, the power of stillness and deep breathing will probably leave you puzzled, as it did for me. Our creative and powerful Creator, gave us life, peace and healing all within one breath, yet how often we take it for granted! It’s our simplest weapon for fighting off those outer stressors. This particular piece is all about coming back to the breath and taking advantage of still moments in order to gain control of our lives again. Busy or not, renew your relationship with your breath and see your days, relationships, emotions, responses change. Enough babbling, let’s get to it.
Wake up and hour before everyone else in the house. Giving up precious sleep sounds crazy, but the benefits of stillness are worth it, friends. Simply wake up early enough to give yourself one full hour by yourself. If you think about, as mothers, we are responding to others all day long! Giving yourself one hour in the morning to respond to yourself, stretch and sip your almond milk turmeric latte will not only start you off on the right foot, but it will also give you time to check in on how you’re actually feeling. Brushing your feelings and emotions under the rug simply because you don’t have time, it’s a mom thing, and frankly, it’s hurting us more than we realize. In the most non-narcissistic way, we need time for ourselves! Doing so first thing in the morning will give you a sense of peace and you’ll be able to take that with you throughout the rest of your day.
Eat your meals sitting down and without any distractions. By distractions, I mean your phone, TV, a book, in your car, etc. Meal times are to be relaxing, energizing and healing to our bodies. When you’re constantly multitasking during your meal, you’re subconsciously adding more stress to your body, mind and even your digestive system. So, diffuse some essential oils, light a candle(non-scented, of course), use the pretty salad bowl and enjoy your meal with a grateful heart. Your mind and digestive system will thank you.
Take mini breathing breaks. Scientific research associates deep breathing with reducing anxiety, increasing the feeling of happiness, helping with resilience amidst stressful situations, and it also aids in childhood cognitive performance. Yes, your breath is that powerful! When you’re stressed, your breathing becomes short and stagnant, which puts your body and mind in panic mode. Lord knows we don’t need any more of that in our lives. Shoot for 12 deep breaths, 2-3 times a day and watch how it calms your body and mind within minutes. Have an extra 5 minutes for the coffee to steep? Breathe. Driving to pick up the kids from school? Breathe. Bathroom break? Breathe. Jumping in the shower? Breathe.
Write it out. Call the bug guy, pick up kids in an hour, get dinner in the oven, text your sister back, oh, and you might want to cover up that greasy hair(thank you Coco Rose Dry Shampoo). A long to-do list can be super overwhelming, but most of the time you’re mind is just over-processing! A quick and simple way to calm the mind is to write out your to-do’s, list them from most important to least important and start from the top. Maybe add a little bible verse in there to remind you what is of the utmost importance! I fail to remember this often and will be adding this to my to-do lists. Luke 12:34 “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” With a busy schedule, this verse reminds me to make sure my priorities are in the right place. For instance, reading my bible first thing should always take precedence over scrolling through Instagram…do I make the right choice every morning? No. Am I working on it? You bet, and writing it down definitely helps.
Stretch and breathe before bed. The days are long, my friend, and sleep is a prized possession! When we’re not sleeping soundly, wow, does it take a toll on us. So, whether it’s five minutes or fifteen minutes, take time to relax your body, central nervous system, your muscles and your mind before bed. In doing so, you’re letting your body know it’s time to relax and prepare for a good night’s rest. It doesn’t have to be anything too strenuous, just a few hip openers in the shower or some spinal twists in bed should do the trick.
I hope these tips are simple and encouraging to you. Stillness is something our bodies crave, don’t forget to pay attention to that amidst you’re long, busy days. You’re doing the best you can. Keep it up, keep breathing and don’t forget to smile.